DEAR ABBY: I’m retired and have discovered a love for making bags, totes and purses with my sewing machine. A few years ago, I started doing local craft shows — not because I’ve turned this into a business, but because it helps clear out the growing inventory. Financially, we’re fine. I’m not risking money we don’t have.
My husband, who still works, strongly disapproves of this. He says I’ve made a job out of a hobby, and he thinks it’s silly since I don’t really make money. He has even suggested I’d be better off throwing my creations away. In truth, after a lifetime of working and raising kids, I finally have time to do something that makes ME happy.
I feel torn. Must I stop doing something I love to keep peace at home, or continue and risk his ongoing resentment? It’s heartbreaking to feel that every time I try something new, I’m met with resistance. — STILL STITCHING IN THE SOUTH
DEAR STILL STITCHING: Your husband appears to be more than little controlling by attempting to tell you how to spend your free time. Your hobby is what it is. It’s a source of pleasure — and it’s not meant to be another income stream. Continue doing what you enjoy and please do not buckle under the pressure.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at http://www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
